My unbalanced Balance sheet!!!

March 29, 2007 at 3:17 pm | In I,me,myself n my life | Leave a Comment

If anyone asked me what’s the worst part of earning your own living, my immediate reply would be “managing my finances”.

I hate (I know hate’s a very strong word but holds good for me) managing finances. It’s beyond me to control my outflows. Some ancient, wise guy from apna India said that money should never be kept cloistered in a locker, it increases only if it’s spent. I follow it blindly. I earn, I spend.

As soon as money comes in, doors to expenditure open on their own (it’s not my fault that my friends come up with ideas of shopping, movies, trips, etc. in which I “have” to accompany them). Though I start off every month with a new budget plan, my expense column always tends to exceed my “expected contingencies” column. This being directly proportional to me not saving a penny (a paisa, for the patriotic lot!).

I have been trying to save money, but I am just not able to. Never knew saving was such a big issue. It’s really painful when you have to pay your phone bill and you realize that you don’t have enough money with you or really embarrassing if you are in a designer studio to buy something, you swipe your card and realize that “you don’t have sufficient balance” in our account. The worst would be if your best friend’s birthday comes at the end of the month.

But this time I have decided to spend carefully (I know I decide that at the beginning of every month but still). I would make my budget planner more meaningful and important part of my life (would keep it close to my heart, sigh!!!) and follow it like a bible (fingers crossed!!!).

Harivanshrai Bachchan

March 26, 2007 at 5:19 pm | In Uncategorized | 3 Comments

“कल छिड़ी, होगी ख़तम कल
 प्रेम की मेरी कहानी,
 कौन हूँ मैं, जो रहेगी
 विश्व में मेरी निशानी?

 क्या किया मैंने नही जो
 कर चुका संसार अबतक?

 वृद्ध जग को क्यों अखरती
 है क्षणिक मेरी जवानी?

 मैं छिपाना जानता तो
 जग मुझे साधु समझता,
 शत्रु मेरा बन गया है
 छल-रहित व्यवहार मेरा!

 कह रहा जग वासनामय
 हो रहा उद्गार मेरा!”

(Taken from Harivanshrai Bachchan’s poem “Kavi Ki Vaasna”)

These are the lines of my favourite poet, which are thought-inspiring for me. Just wanted to share it.

Chennai – Love it or leave it!!!

March 21, 2007 at 8:38 pm | In Places | 1 Comment

Chennai – a place outsiders love to hate and I just love.

When I tell people that I lived in Chennai, you get the usual reaction, “Chennai? Isn’t it really dirty? It’s so hot in Chennai. I can never live there”. My usual question in reply would be, “When did you go to Chennai?”, and they would say, “No, I have just heard that” or “I had been there 5-6 years back”.

Hey people, Chennai’s not all that bad. It’s just all the bad publicity it gets. Yes, it’s not a super-clean city but which city in India is? It has its share of dirty lanes but also some nice roads (better than the ones I have seen in Bangalore!).

It has the longest beach in the world, Marina (though little dirty, the sunsets and sunrises are still a sight). It has other wonderful, cleaner beaches too, if you are the beachy type. You can find lot of private beaches if you step out of Chennai towards Mahabalipuram. You could even go to Mahabalipuram for your weekends (just that it would be REALLY crowded).

Then, who doesn’t know about Spencer Plaza (ya, I know that’s the only shopping mall out there but we have more coming up)? You can see the whole of Chennai at Spencers during weekends. and you’ll wonder as always “all these people actually live in Chennai?”…

I better not talk about the auto guys. Non-Chennaiites have a hell of a time with them. They demand their price and you negotiate(if you are wise enough) till you reach a “reasonable” rate (FYI I am NOT WISE!!!). But once you get used to it, it’s all fine because you have buses and share autos (which are irritating in their own way) and you end up owning your own vehicle. So, everything becomes fine!

The people can be either friendly or unfriendly or irritatingly friendly (had to put the 3rd option). Helpful but please don’t mess with them and if you do, be ready to hear all the good things in the world. But otherwise, they are a nice lot.

So, you can love it or leave it… But however it is, I love Chennai!!!

Just Married-arranging the marriage…

March 19, 2007 at 6:48 pm | In Reviews | Leave a Comment

Watching this movie was a co-incidence; had gone to watch “Honeymoon Travels” but got tickets for this movie and ended up enjoying it.

“Just Married” was definitely a better choice. Though both the movies revolve around the same theme, marriage, the treatment has been different. All about a couple brought together not by fate, but by parents. Quite a true depiction of strangers thrown together by marriage. It’s about how love blossoms between them after marriage (which is quite obvious by the trailers).

Fardeen has finally learnt to act. He’s been more than the chocolate hero in this movie (could be also because he’s put on a bit of weight). For a change even Esha’s good. A slimmer Esha, with minimal make-up; she comes as a bit of a surprise. The other couples are cute too. Perizad Zorabian with Bikram Saluja (the most perfect, “in love” couple of the lot), Sadia Siddique and Mukul Dev (Sadia who’s completely in love with Mukul but Mukul’s confused), Kirron Kher and Satish Shah (the senior citizens) and Raj Zutshi and Tarina Patel (the “unmarried couple”). But they only support the story and help Abhay (Fardeen) and Ritika (Esha) to come closer.

Meghna Gulzar has come up with a refreshing movie, after such a long gap. Though its devoid of any high-tension drama, its still enjoyable (so those who love Karan Johar-Yash Chopra kind of movies would be terribly disappointed and would not agree with me). It’s for those who want to see a serious theme put in a very subtle and light way.

For me arranged marriages are beyond imagination so watching this movie was worthwhile (though I still stick to my decision of not going for a complete arranged marriage). A must-see for those who have decided to take the plunge the parental way, and also for those who are sailing or drowning in it (as applicable!!!).

Nishabd… wordless…

March 13, 2007 at 6:43 pm | In Reviews | Leave a Comment

Nishabd wasn’t actually spell-binding but I have just one word to explain it – ‘interesting’!!!

Ramgopal Varma has proved his forte with “different” movies. This movie with an unusual storyline stands out among all the crass seen today. Its been well taken, especially the treatment of the theme (I know there might be people who would love to disagree with me on this). The movie goes on at a gentle pace, even slow at times, but that’s the charm of such movies.

Amitabh has done an excellent job as always (though many couldn’t digest such a character being potrayed by him) and Revathy too stands out with her performance. But the one who left an impression is the sexy Jiah Khan. She plays her role of seductress to perfection (the lollipop in her mouth, her legs always at display and “take light”). I’ll give her full points for her attitude and clothes (though minimal!) and accessories.

Another interesting aspect of the movie is the location. Munnar-the beautiful hill station of Kerala-has been very beautifully shot. The camerawork’s been exceptional especially the shots of the locale. Also, there’s one scene where the camera glides from the rooftop of Amitabh’s house to his approaching jeep (just loved it!!!).

Well, as for the story, I liked it. It’s a complicated storyline treated in a very simple way and that’s the beauty of the movie. I don’t know what others think about the movie but for me it is as I said in the beginning – INTERESTING…

Happy Women’s Day!!!

March 8, 2007 at 7:19 pm | In News and Views | Leave a Comment

Happy Women’s Day!!!

This day belongs to the Women of the world,  women who have been called the “fairer sex”, “weaker sex”, “the better half”, etc etc. But what are women actually?

Are we the “fairer sex”? Not really… How can a person’s skin colour determine what sex they belong to? Or the sex determine what colour they should have? (ahem ahem…) So, calling us the “fairer sex” doesn’t make any sense, does it?

So, are we the weaker sex? Definitely not (guys can shake their heads negatively as much as they want to). Women may be physically weak (though not all) but their mental ability to withstand all problems has to be appreciated. And even in the area of physical strength, it’s only because not all of us have been trained to be physically strong (its feminine to be weak!!!). Now whose fault is that?

And how about being the “better half”? Well, I would agree to that only if it didn’t sound so sarcastic (it does sound sarcastic). It’s not that I am trying to look at the darker side of everything, but the “worse half” always love to indulge in sarcasm.

So, what are we actually? We are the ‘wo-men’ from where the ‘men’ come. So, why do we need all these adjectives? Let us be what we are – WOMEN!!!

Why did I leave journalism?

March 6, 2007 at 5:53 pm | In News and Views | Leave a Comment

“Why did you leave journalism?”

I have been hearing this question from the time I dropped the idea of pursuing my higher studies in journalism and instead landed in a completely different job. So why the big leap? And that too at a time when media’s the most sought after career.

Well, we are taught a lot of things in the classroom. But its not the real thing. You get to know the real thing only when you land up right in the middle of the s**t. Not that I had the “chance” of getting stuck there. I wanted to get into television; news scripting or editing. But the plight of the news channels today made me reconsider my decision. On second thoughts, I realized, “Why should I compromise on my values and be trampled on by some money-loving ‘news makers’?”

They are ‘the news makers’; they create news if there isn’t any. Or just exaggerate any news story, unnecessarily hype it so that people are stuck to the news channels. If there’s a main news story, it would be shown on the channel the whole day, pushing the viewers to desperation to look for other options (though people love to devour “interesting” stories, but it becomes unbearable after some time). Why don’t the media barons realize this?

News channels are the most viewed ones especially during a crisis or disaster. So, why not make it effective journalism? Something worthwhile, something that would really help people. But does anyone care? Do people like us-ME and YOU-really care?

JMM MP shot dead…

March 5, 2007 at 8:00 pm | In News and Views | Leave a Comment

“JMM MP Mahto, 41, was killed by suspected Maoist rebels on Sunday evening near Narsingh village of Jamshedpur district, about 140 km from here. “

This news has been flashing on all the news channels from yesterday. Saw it in the newspaper today morning. Well, to be frank didn’t read the whole news story but was trying to link it to my friend. My friend and room mate is from Jamshedpur. But didn’t give much thought to it.

Later, when I met her after coming back from my uncle’s place she told me that her uncle had died, her dad’s sister’s husband and that he has been murdered. That’s when it struck to me that she was talking about Sunil Mahato. Though he’s her dad’s cousin’s husband they are a close-knit family.

The whole of Bihar and Jharkhand is protesting. But how far does all this high-tension drama go? There will be investigation and then maybe CBI probe. Will it give the desired results? Will the real perpetrators be punished? Or will it be like those scores of incidents which go unpunished every year?

Sunil Mahato leaves behind his wife and two young children-the youngest one is only a year old. So, what happens next???

The name’s Dhanya

March 2, 2007 at 4:49 pm | In I,me,myself n my life | 6 Comments

Dhanya, the name my parents (actually my uncle chose the name!) gave me when I was born, has been tossed around mercilessly for quite a long time.

Living in the north was a torture with a name like mine. (There was a time when I used to cry that I want to change my name.) I believe the name of a person is their identity and people loved murdering my identity. Have heard all sorts of pronunciation – “dhaniya” (which means coriander in Hindi), “dhaanya” (stretching the ‘a’ actually made it similar to the word “grains” in Hindi), “dhany” (removing the ‘a’ in the end pushed me to the neuter gender) and many more. First all this mockery was drowned in tears but then it gave way to taking pains pronouncing it for everyone.

But it’s not just the North Indians who spoilt my name. Mallus (the ones from God’s own country) call me “denya”, though it is from Kerala that my name actually comes from. Tamilians call me ‘danya’ or ‘daniya’ or ‘kothamalli’ (coriander). Thankfully, I have been able to pronounce it for the rest of them before they even think of enroaching on it.

So, whats the actual way of pronouncing my name? It is “DHANYAA” with the primary stress on “dh” and secondary on “n”. Hope this would help people. The meaning of my name has been disputed for long, though, according to me, it means “the one who is blessed”. Some people say it also means “great”, “thanks”, or “Goddess Lakshmi” but I stick to the meaning I have been hearing for a long time.

Though Shakespeare said, “What’s in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet”, the name of a person is his/her possession; something with which you can identify the person. So, people think twice and ask twice before you contemplate murder!!!

Unforgettable Aloysius…

March 1, 2007 at 6:53 pm | In Uncategorized | Leave a Comment

Can’t imagine it’s almost a year since I have been out of college…

College was fun. Studying at St. Aloysius College taught me a lot of things. College with one of the best campuses around Mangalore, we spent more time on the campus than anywhere (any ex-Aloysian would say the same). Lots of trees and place to sit (guess they actually encouraged “under-the-tree education”). And we did learn a lot of things there. Had heated debates, humourous discussions and lots of stuff. Those “under-the-tree” classes shaped up our dreams, aspirations, ambitions, etc etc…

The college was unique in its own way. I won’t say it was the best college but it was good. Like anyone else we too had boring lectures (Entrepreneurship classes and certain English Literature classes), fun college events (degree day, elections, musical evening, our own fest – Artbeat), inspiring lecturers (??? sorry can’t think of anyone), cool classmates…

Talking about cool classmates, we were a mixed bunch. Just 35 of us in the Journalism class, from different places. We had the local Mangaloreans, the proud Mallus (I was one one of them), the over-polite Tibetans, two cute Manipuri guys, a sexy girl from Nagaland, a talented Kenyan; a real motley. Final year was the time we had fun in the back bench. Sitting on the second last bench in front of the Kenyan guy – Douglas, a Manipuri guy – Marcus and one of the Tibetan guys – Lobsang. We had so much fun commenting on the lecturers, discussing serious stuff and they had a good time pulling my hair. (Douglas is now heading the media dept of one of the NGO divisons of AGMARK in Kenya.)

I am not sure if we all ended up at the places we all wished to, but most of us have found our place under the sun. Everyone’s doing good in one way or the other. Though we had lot of problems during our final year, in the end what’s important is that all of us are doing well in life. And proving our point to the people who thought we were hopeless… So three cheers to the the revolutionary batch of ‘03-’06 Journalism, English Lit and Communicative Eng (JEC) of St.Aloysius College!!!

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